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Married
Well, I’m officially a married man. Feels great! Jesseca and I tied the knot on June 19th, 2010, in our back yard. It was a beautiful ceremony and Jesseca took my breath away when she came out and joined her father for the walk down the aisle carpeted with grass and rose petals scattered by her two daughters. Felt good to have the Earth beneath our feet.
Some would dismiss this deep internal happiness I feel with the proverbial “glow of the honeymoon,” yet this feels much more profound than something temporary. I think the soulmate concept is oversold. We can meet a lot of soulmates throughout our lifetime, yet I know that Jesseca is a deep soulmate and that we’ve come together to not only work out those shadows that can inhibit the fullest expression possible of who we truly are in relationship, but to learn how to love and just as importantly how to let love in.
It’s sometimes scary too! Jesseca and I have had our conflicts, and of course she’s right much of the time, but most of the time these conflicts are her fault. Okay, okay. More to the truth of the matter, I allow myself to temporarily believe that it’s her fault and usually try to convince her, but eventually I relent and let go of trying to find fault in her, or in myself. Each time we resolve the conflict—and we tend to do so rather quickly—it deepens our respect for one another and emphasizes the critical task of allowing Spirit to direct us individually and in our relationship.
The most significant conflicts took place within the first year or so after we started our relationship. We even broke up twice during the courtship phase. A therapist friend told me that most couples break up at least a couple times before they get married. True in this case! And it’s nice to get the vast majority of the b.s. out of the way so we can do what we came here to do in our partnership.
We’ve realized most of the time from the beginning that there was clearly a bigger purpose in our being together. We both got our butts kicked that first year, but it’s sort of like going to the dentist. Well, to tell the truth it sometimes felt more like being dragged to the dentist kicking and screaming and really feeling the pain when your teeth are being worked on but being grateful afterwards because now you can eat crunchy foods and stuff that you weren’t able to eat before. Something like that anyway.
We support each other and have a clarity about our roles as husband and wife. Jesseca is a gifted and grounded intuitive and in her readings for clients, has a wisdom beyond her years. In addition, she takes care of the administrative tasks for my work. And she is an excellent writer. She also takes care of the home front, and is a good mother to her two daughters, Serena, 7, and Ari, 5, both of whom I love as my own.
Can you tell I like and admire her? And appreciate her? I’m sure you can. It’s a great adventure, one that I look forward to continue sharing with her.
Ti Amo la mia bella moglie
